Alexis Lowenstein sitting on a cushion on a wooden floor, in front of a presentation slide at a past Hold Me Tight workshop. The slide displays a list titled 'Conversation Seven: Keeping Your Love Alive,' with four bullet points.

Hold Me Tight® Workshop

Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

A 2-Day Immersion to Reconnect, Repair, and Deepen Your Bond

October 2026
Burlington, VT

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Every relationship experiences moments of distance, misunderstanding, and disconnection.

The Hold Me Tight® Workshop offers couples a supportive and structured opportunity to slow down, step out of old patterns, and rediscover the emotional connection that brought them together in the first place.

Based on the groundbreaking work of Dr. Sue Johnson and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), this experiential workshop helps couples understand the patterns that create conflict and learn new ways of reaching for one another with openness, vulnerability, and trust.

Whether your relationship is thriving and you'd like to deepen your connection, or you're feeling stuck in recurring cycles that leave you feeling alone, this workshop provides practical tools and meaningful conversations to strengthen your bond.

Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark of Dr. Sue Johnson.

What You'll Learn

Throughout the workshop, you'll be guided through a series of conversations designed to help you:

  • Understand the negative patterns that create distance and conflict

  • Identify the emotions and attachment needs beneath those patterns

  • Improve communication and emotional responsiveness

  • Repair old hurts and strengthen trust

  • Deepen emotional and physical intimacy

  • Create a stronger foundation of safety and connection

This is not group therapy. You will participate alongside other couples, but all exercises and conversations take place privately between you and your partner.

Is This Workshop Right for Us?

This workshop is designed for couples who:

  • Want to strengthen an already healthy relationship

  • Feel caught in recurring conflicts or misunderstandings

  • Are experiencing emotional distance or disconnection

  • Want to improve communication and intimacy

  • Are curious about attachment and relationship patterns

  • Value personal growth and emotional connection

Couples at many different stages of relationship can benefit from this experience.

What to Expect

The workshop combines:

  • Teaching and guided presentations

  • Reflection exercises

  • Private couple conversations

  • Experiential activities rooted in EFT principles

There is no requirement to share personal relationship details with the larger group.

The environment is supportive, welcoming, and designed to help couples feel safe as they explore meaningful conversations together.

Alexis Lowenstein sitting on a cream armchair, wearing a white blouse and blue jeans, in a living room decorated with a wooden shelf, a vase with pink and green flowers, and a decorative bowl.

Meet Your Facilitator

Alexis Lowenstein, LMFT, has been helping individuals and couples heal and grow for more than 25 years.

She specializes in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), one of the most effective and research-supported approaches for strengthening relationships and creating lasting emotional connection.

Known for her warmth, insight, and grounded presence, Alexis creates spaces where couples can explore vulnerability, deepen understanding, and reconnect with what matters most.

Frequently Asked Questions

  • The Hold Me Tight® Workshop is based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s bestselling book Hold Me Tight: Seven Conversations for a Lifetime of Love, which brings the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) to couples in a clear, guided format. Rooted in the science of attachment and love, this workshop helps partners recognize their emotional patterns and learn new ways of reaching for each other with more openness and trust. Offered around the world, it has helped countless couples deepen their connection, heal disconnection, and build more secure, loving relationships.

    ​The workshop format includes psycho-educational instruction, break-out time for couples to engage with the guided exercises, and opportunities for sharing with the larger group. Alexis and assistants are there to support couples where they get stuck and need support navigating the conversations. 

    ​​Hold Me Tight® is a registered trademark of Sue Johnson Inc.

  • No. Hold Me Tight® is an educational and experiential workshop based on the principles of Emotionally Focused Therapy. While many couples experience meaningful shifts and insights, it is not a substitute for ongoing psychotherapy.

  • This workshop is appropriate for all couples at any stage of their relationship. This workshop is not appropriate for couples experiencing active addiction, abuse or infidelity.

  • Alexis will present and guide you through key relationship insights based on Dr. Sue Johnson’s Emotionally Focused Therapy and her book Hold Me Tight®. These teachings provide a clear framework for understanding emotional connection and relationship patterns. Reading Hold Me Tight® prior to the workshop is recommended but not required. ​

    Couples will have dedicated time to practice each conversation privately together, using structured exercises designed to help you apply what you are learning in real time. Alexis and highly skilled therapist assistants will be available to offer support and guidance as needed, always respecting your comfort level.

    There is no group sharing required during group sessions, though many couples find sharing in the group a meaningful experience. All exercises and conversations are held privately between you and your partner, allowing for a safe and personal experience.

    ​Workshop materials and snacks are included. Lunch is not provided but is available for purchase during the lunch break at local restaurants.

  • The Seven Conversations that the Hold Me Tight ® workshop walks couples through are:

    1. Recognizing the Demon Dialogues

    2. Finding the Raw Spots

    3. Revisiting a Rocky Moment

    4. Hold Me Tight

    5. Forgiving Injuries

    6. Bonding Through Sex and Touch

    7. Keeping Your Love Alive

  • Yes! Alexis is available to facilitate Hold Me Tight® workshops for your community or spiritual community. Please get in touch to learn more.

  • Absolutely. The Hold Me Tight ® workshop is designed to give participants real-time experience with shifting out of the negative cycles of communication that we all can get caught in. Therapists and other healers who have participated in these workshops report significant breakthroughs with the stuck places in their relationships.

  • Yes! I don't have anything scheduled yet for this year but I am taking names on a waitlist and planning to offer a Hold Me Tight® retreat at some point in the near future. Please let me know if you are interested.

  • "This workshop really helped to move my partner and I from a really rough spot where we were struggling to see a future together, to a place where we are more committed to each other and have a better understanding of one another. I could not be more grateful for your beautiful presence and the incredible container that you created! Thank you so much for offering such beautiful guidance in our sacred partnership. I could not be more excited for our future.”

    — Anonymous Participant

Reconnect With What Matters Most

If you're ready to strengthen your connection and create new possibilities for your relationship, we'd love to welcome you to an upcoming Hold Me Tight® Workshop.

Get on the waitlist for October 2026